So many people remain in unhealthy relationships because they hate the thought of being alone. And that's totally understandable. And yet, putting up with toxic partners just to "have somebody" is a habit that'll get you stuck in an unhealthy cycle. And that's so not worth it.
Your relationship with your parents can set you down an unhealthy path. But if you have a toxic dad, it's even more likely you'll play that dynamic out again and again with their partners. But it's well worth it. If you don't know how to argue properly , it may be what's to blame for your string of bad relationships. So make a point of working on this issue going forward. Once you learn how to compromise, your relationships will be way healthier. And hopefully, you'll be able to break this streak of toxicity.
By Carolyn Steber. See All Health Relationships Self. As an adult, you may find yourself drawn to highly controlling, manipulative partners who can take advantage of this type of learned dependency.
Communication Is Difficult For You. If you were sent mixed messages as a child, of course communication may be more challenging for you. You may be drawn to more narcissistic partners who are happy to do all of the talking or equally challenged communicators, which may recreate a confusing and ill-defined relationship.
It might take time and a concerted effort, but you can start putting yourself first and learn to give yourself the care you need and deserve.
Typically healthy relationships are balanced, where the needs of both partners are addressed with open, honest communication, and no one party is prioritized more than the other. Both partners can admit to mistakes and work with the other partner when finding a resolution that fits the needs of the relationship.
You may prioritize the happiness of others above yourself. If this is the case, it would be helpful if you could think about why, and where this notion came from. The most entertaining shows typically have the most mentally unstable, personality-disordered characters.
Drama, miscommunication, gossip, lies, scandal, and affairs all come with the territory of being very emotionally young, like a bunch of toddlers throwing tantrums. Believe me, watching a show about healthy adults would be super boring and uneventful.
Cultivate an inner sanctuary of silence, compassion, peace, and acceptance of yourself, perhaps through yoga, meditation, or spending time in nature, or by seeing a therapist to work through the core wounds from your childhood. Work on spiritual practices that help you accept yourself for who you are and be comfortable in your own body without needing to be with someone.
This could include breath work, affirmations, journaling, or even some form or art. Letting go of your ex allows you to pick up the journey on your own for a bit so you can grow stronger and be better prepared for healthy, happy relationships in the future.
After your own solo travels, you can find another love that will help you grow as a person and further reach your potential as a human being. Or will allow you to discover who you are so you can live an honest and authentic life, which will lead you to rich experiences, spiritual growth, and deeper friendships.
Ending this relationship will open the realm of possibilities for authentic relationships, healthy love, and true happiness. Vishnu is a writer and coach who helps people overcome breakups to rebuild their lives and live with purpose.
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