I fully expect this article to be a minimum of 5, words and each one of those words is going to be teaching you something valuable about the art of flirting. I mean, for gods sake the guy is so good at tennis that the talking heads of the sport say this about his game,. They make fun of the way they look when they play. So, now that I have shifted your paradigm about flirting a bit lets take a moment to define what flirting actually is.
The truth is that none of the definitions I could find for flirting were exactly what I wanted when relating to exes. So, I figured I would just wing this bad boy and create my own definition just for this site. You will use all kinds of methods to achieve this.
Seduction, passion, chemistry, wit and humor. Notice how in my definition I talk about how true flirting sets you apart from any other man that your ex girlfriend has ever encountered in her entire life.
So, the obvious question that you are wondering at this point is how can you acquire this superpower. For many of you reading this your end goal will revolve completely around getting your ex girlfriend back. Since she is so unattracted to you, you know that you need to do something fast to turn the tables in your favor if you are going to even have a chance of getting her back. So, you start sprinkling in some flirtation and all of a sudden the scale slowly starts moving up. Eventually you have sprinkled in so much flirtation that you find that your exes overall attraction towards you has risen to a point where she is agreeable to going out with you, kissing you and potentially even taking you back.
To take her from point A where she is unattracted to you to point B where she is attracted to you. Well, before I can teach you that I have to teach you about the three types of flirtation categories with an ex girlfriend. So, if you are a little confused as to how this all works let me give you a quick crash course. If you were to be texting and flirting with your ex girlfriend then that means that you would be flirting under the text message category.
What if I told you that in order to raise your chances of getting your ex back you need to flirt the categories in order. It might shock you to hear this but McDonalds makes almost no money at all on their hamburgers. Seriously, any time they make a sale on a hamburger they end up just making a few cents.
They end up making most of their money on the upsells. The extra large fries and the coke. Ok, there is a lot going on here so I am going to take a moment to explain exactly what this graphic is all about. You will also notice that there are arrows that are found within the graphic pointing from one flirtation category to the next.
The numbers above the flirtation categories are meant to represent the order in which the category should be performed. Well, in order to move from one category to the next you have to build enough attraction in the current category you are working on.
For example, if you are currently building attraction in the texting category enough attraction has to be built in that category before you can successfully move on to the next category. Get it? They make most of their profit on the upsells of the coke and fries. We also have three flirtation categories what if we used a McDonalds analogy. Once you have sold a burger through McDonalds then you can offer the coke and the fries to the customer and make your big bucks.
Well, in relationships when you successfully build as much attraction as you can through flirting in text messages then you can advance to a phone call, build attraction there and then ultimately the date where a lot of stuff can get accomplished including winning your ex back. Let me put it this way. Most of the successful relationships I have repaired have flirted the categories in order. Most of the unsuccessful relationships I have failed to repair have not flirted the categories in order.
Ok, so now that we know what are three categories are and the order in which they should be flirted in lets talk about some category specific flirtation methods. Simple, we are not trying to flirt our way to a reunion just yet.
Like with anything, the art of flirting requires you to be very patient and start off slow. I mean, if you start flirting 0 to 60 right off the bat there could be some issues. Start working on restoring your self confidence so that you remind yourself of what you bring to the table. The next step when using this tool is to introduce new types of activities into your life.
This will make them want to get your attention even more, and as time goes on a seed of doubt will be planted in terms of their decision to let you go. At this point, it will be very useful to know how to flirt with a man or a woman, because your ex will be much more susceptible to it.
There are a few different ways of doing this, and for tips on how to get in contact with an ex after your NC period , click here. One simple way to do it if by sending a text message that looks something like this:. Ideally, you should send something to spark their interest. Think about something that would be hard to ignore. Make sure that the conversation stays on a positive note. Keep the conversation light and funny, and then you can start to introduce flirtation as the conversation develops.
Humor is always a positive thing. When you two have gone through a breakup, it can feel pretty heavy. This is why lightening the mood can be a great way to begin flirting with your ex. You can message him or her things that you know will catch them off guard and make them laugh. Ideally, you should incorporate inside jokes into compliments. For example, if you used to joke that she always felt chilly when walking outside, you could say with a smile , "Lovely jacket. Though, let me guess, you're feeling cold?
Every couple has favorite memories that they share. You can draw on these during when flirting after your breakup. You can be playful or more suggestive, depending on your style, the sense of humor or your ex, and the level of comfort between you. For example, "That smile brings back memories" is a considerably more light-hearted comment than winking and saying, "I remember seeing that dress thrown across my floor Whatever the case, make sure that your comment is appropriate, you do not want to offend her.
Surprise your ex with the occasional text, email or letter. Spontaneous flirtatious messages can help to keep you in her mind and can let her know that your interest surpasses the occasional remark made in person. These don't have to be complex. They can be complimentary and should be just enough to arouse her curiosity.
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